Dreams. Aspirations. Goals. Targets. Desires. Whatever you want to call them, they all nurture the same feeling. The feeling of wanting to achieve something that will either better yourself/your situation or leave you with a feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction.
For me personally I think to have a constant goal, even if it is a micro-goal (e.g. text that friend today or make my bed before I head out) is absolutely vital for my mental health and sanity.
I like to be constantly working towards something and achieving things even if they are minor. ‘Little Wins’ I like to call them. When an aspiration becomes too broad or great and takes a long time to achieve, with that comes a risk of deflation and loss of purpose.
That feeling for me, when I lose my drive and sense of purpose is a dangerous one, nothing gets me down like that. So why not break down your mountain of a goal into more manageable milestones and reward yourself every time you achieve one. After all, we’ve all been told ‘its nice to be nice’ but in my opinion. Its nicest to be nice to yourself 🙂
When it comes to knowing what you want to do with your life, now that’s a completely different ‘ball game’ and in all honesty theres nothing I can really say if you already have your heart set on a certain career path apart from “Go for it! Never give up and I wish you all the luck in the world!”.
But if you don’t know what you want to do and you don’t feel overly passionate about anything, well, that’s the tricky part. For a long time I didn’t know what I wanted to do and I learned over time not to stress myself out over it. Instead I learned to let life happen to me and to go with the flow. I honestly believe that finding your vocation in life is like looking for an outfit for a night out or party. If you need it for that night, there is NOTHING in the shops whereas if you’ve got a week to look then the shops are littered with nice shirts and trouser combos!
Sometimes it’s good to live in the moment and to try not to be in control of everything. I was speaking to my best friend Sophie the other evening and she is a woman who LOVES her job. She has bad days as we all do but generally she enjoys going to work everyday. We were speaking about this exact subject which actually inspired this post and she was saying how she loves her job but when she was picking her GCSE’s/A Levels she didn’t even know her current job existed nor that she would ever find herself working in her current field! It just goes to show that you never know where you’re going to end up and you might not know what job will make you happiest. So my advice is to stop trying to force yourself to figure it out and roll with the punches for a while and see what happens.
We live in an amazing time where everyone has access to the internet in one way or another, even if it is down at the local library (you do at least if you’re reading this blog!). This digital age in which we live is there for you to make the most of, use it to your advantage. Educate yourself, sell yourself, MAKE SOMETHING OF YOURSELF!
Use the tools around you that you probably take for granted and make the most of them!
A list of DO’s!
- Be open to all opportunities no matter how big or small
- Be committed and don’t give up if things get tough
- Work hard! Remember if it was easy, everyone would be doing it
- Be proactive, make everyday count
- Be yourself and be happy – Never compromise your morals and what you think is right to get ahead
- Have no expectations therefore you will have no disappointments
- Stay humble
- Remember the people that supported you and pushed you in all the right directions
I’m a strong believer of whatever will be will be and that everything happens for a reason. The world is there for the taking…SO TAKE IT!
If you have any tips or advice to share on this subject that could help me or any other readers please leave it in a comment!