Finding Your Path…

Dreams.  Aspirations.  Goals.  Targets.  Desires.  Whatever you want to call them, they all nurture the same feeling.  The feeling of wanting to achieve something that will either better yourself/your situation or leave you with a feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction.

For me personally I think to have a constant goal, even if it is a micro-goal (e.g. text that friend today or make my bed before I head out) is absolutely vital for my mental health and sanity.

I like to be constantly working towards something and achieving things even if they are minor.  ‘Little Wins’ I like to call them.  When an aspiration becomes too broad or great and takes a long time to achieve, with that comes a risk of deflation and loss of purpose.

That feeling for me, when I lose my drive and sense of purpose is a dangerous one, nothing gets me down like that.  So why not break down your mountain of a goal into more manageable milestones and reward yourself every time you achieve one.  After all, we’ve all been told ‘its nice to be nice’ but in my opinion.  Its nicest to be nice to yourself 🙂

When it comes to knowing what you want to do with your life, now that’s a completely different ‘ball game’ and in all honesty theres nothing I can really say if you already have your heart set on a certain career path apart from “Go for it! Never give up and I wish you all the luck in the world!”.

But if you don’t know what you want to do and you don’t feel overly passionate about anything, well, that’s the tricky part. For a long time I didn’t know what I wanted to do and I learned over time not to stress myself out over it. Instead I learned to let life happen to me and to go with the flow.  I honestly believe that finding your vocation in life is like looking for an outfit for a night out or party.  If you need it for that night, there is NOTHING in the shops whereas if you’ve got a week to look then the shops are littered with nice shirts and trouser combos!

Sometimes it’s good to live in the moment and to try not to be in control of everything.  I was speaking to my best friend Sophie the other evening and she is a woman who LOVES her job.  She has bad days as we all do but generally she enjoys going to work everyday.  We were speaking about this exact subject which actually inspired this post and she was saying how she loves her job but when she was picking her GCSE’s/A Levels she didn’t even know her current job existed nor that she would ever find herself working in her current field!  It just goes to show that you never know where you’re going to end up and you might not know what job will make you happiest.  So my advice is to stop trying to force yourself to figure it out and roll with the punches for a while and see what happens.

We live in an amazing time where everyone has access to the internet in one way or another, even if it is down at the local library (you do at least if you’re reading this blog!).  This digital age in which we live is there for you to make the most of, use it to your advantage.  Educate yourself, sell yourself, MAKE SOMETHING OF YOURSELF!

Use the tools around you that you probably take for granted and make the most of them!

A list of DO’s!

  • Be open to all opportunities no matter how big or small
  • Be committed and don’t give up if things get tough
  • Work hard! Remember if it was easy, everyone would be doing it
  • Be proactive, make everyday count
  • Be yourself and be happy – Never compromise your morals and what you think is right to get ahead
  • Have no expectations therefore you will have no disappointments
  • Stay humble
  • Remember the people that supported you and pushed you in all the right directions

I’m a strong believer of whatever will be will be and that everything happens for a reason. The world is there for the taking…SO TAKE IT!

If you have any tips or advice to share on this subject that could help me or any other readers please leave it in a comment!

8 Comments

  1. i absolutely love yours and Dan’s youtube video’s sometimes when I’m down i always watch them and my lord you both me happy like no tomorrow just which i could talk to someome about my problems but don’t know who to talk to. X

  2. You ABSOLUTELY have a way with words, Jon! Such deep and inspiring lessons.
    Love you and Daniel so much! ❤️ ❤️

  3. This post is bang on! I live my life in a similar way, what ever will be will be! Also use full advantage of your surroundings and what you have available to you… I look forward to your blogs just as much as I do your videos! Keep smashing it mate and best of luck to you!

  4. Oh my gosh I swear this blog post was meant to be in my life right now! I’m currently in the middle of a year long diploma and was going to do a degree but I’ve literally just decided within this week that I’m not going to now! I’ve been getting so confused and stressed out about what I’d like to do in life and feel as though I have to pinpoint and work towards something, but I love how you say go with the flow and see what happens I need that in my life!! You’re so right in saying that you’ll never know what happens:) You have eased my mind and I am gonna read this blog post again and again! I think i’ll try and go travelling and volunteering abroad type stuff instead of the degree and see what happens along the way! Something amazing coukd happen☺️THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I feel like the universe planned for me to read this post what the hell Cus this is just what I needed to read! You’re amazing and as is Dan 🙂

  5. Love your blog and your and Dan’s vlog. Both areas inspire me and at the same time makes me laugh. Keep up the great job that you’re doing. Keeps a lot of people smiling. ❤❤

  6. Someone once said, “Choose a job you love and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.” So don’t plan for a career you THINK you will love, work at trying anything that interests you. Believe it or not, a college (uni) education teaches you a lot, but it doesn’t show you what work you might be passionate about. Work to support yourself, but never give up the search for that job that you might LOVE, whether it is in your field of study or not. Try anything that interests you, take the chance, accept the risk. And when you find that career that is actually meant for you, you’ll know it. And no one will be able to wipe the smile off your face . . . or your heart.

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